Time flies and Kal Ho Na Ho turns 16 today! If we could look right through its problematic premises, it made us laugh, it made us cry and it taught us how to deal with the grief and move on with life.
It was released on November 28, 2003.
Here are some of the life lessons we learnt from Kal Ho Na Ho which are relevant even today:
1. It is okay to let go
Naina, who is depressed with her situation at home and perpetually sad for the loss of her father, feels responsible for the world falling apart. She wears the burdens of her chaotic world up to her sleeves until Aman comes into the picture and makes her realise that it is okay to let go and let the matter slip away with this iconic dialogue “haso, jiyo, muskurao, kya pata kal ho na ho!”
2. Love will find its way
In a world full of chaos and humdrum, we often feel lonely and hopeless. We lose ourselves falling into the trap of believing that loneliness will last forever. This psyche is very common among people of all ages. However, that’s not true. It takes just a little shift in perspective and life starts falling in place. Just like Naina; a little receptive and positive outlook made all the difference. And you never know, you might also find your Rohit along the way!
3. Find a spot to cry. Don’t bottle it all up!
The film starts with Naina going to her hideout to shred a few tears whenever she remembers her father “… jab bhi papa ki yaad ati hain, yaha aa jati hu”. That’s her secret spot to break down whenever life comes fast at her. This is the same spot she runs to when she discovers Aman is lying to her and her heart is broken. So, find your comfort space and bring it all out and make sure to have a good cry. It’s okay to pour your heart out.
4. Fake it till you make it!
As much as it is important to embrace your sadness and pour your heart out, it is equally important to find the opportunities to smile. Amidst so many complications in life, we often fail to recognize our blessings, doesn’t mean we don’t have any. So, identify your blessings and say “1..2..3..eee”.
5. Accept the situation and move on
Whether you agree or not, life goes on. So, whatever the problems are, accept them and move on. Naina fell in love with Aman completely unaware about his condition. But when she was inundated with the information of Aman dying, she was shattered and broken … but then with a little time, she heals again and eventually gives love another chance.
Having said that, nothing comes easy, not even happiness. But, Kal Ho Na Ho taught us how to embrace the conflicts of life and appreciate what we have in the most fulfilling way.